LGBT Public Holiday Campaign

I don't understand this:

LGBT Public Holiday Campaign

Tell me; where is the sense in this? A group of people fighting for equality and justice for so long, and what now? Ah, yes; differentiation. That makes sense. Unless all the 'hetros' get a holiday too? But what about those who don't identify with any gender? What about black people (what on earth is the PC term nowadays?)? What about people from Poland? Hell, what about blonde people? What makes LGBTs so different?

Yes, yes, I know that the fight for rights has been going on forever and that 'we' have a lot more rights than ever before and 'we' should celebrate that. Of course, I am eternally grateful to those who did so much to put me where I am today (and I’m a woman – man, I have a lot to live up to...), but I don't think that singling out a day is going to achieve anything. The problem is right there in that sentence! 'We' - we? That only makes an 'us' and 'them'! There is no 'us' and 'them' - at least; there shouldn't be. Equality…huh. I think there comes a point in these ‘fights for equality’ when the ‘fighting’ has to stop, and the ‘living’ has to start. Sooner or later, you’re past fighting for recognition, and end up fighting for difference, and where’s the sense in that?

I don't identify with the term 'lesbian' (and not just because I'm not from Lesbos). I know that I am gay, but I don't particularly like to use that label to define myself. I'm just me. A woman, born in the UK, white, or caucasi - oh fuck this PC crap - who is in a relationship with another woman. I don't feel the need to use my sexuality (or anything else) to make myself any different.

Does this make me a 'bad' lesbian? No, I don't think so. I don't think that I'm just trying to 'conform' to society, to 'fit in' with all the hetros. No, I just think that by defining myself in that way, I will only widen the gap between 'us' and 'them'. Sure, I conform to some of the 'stereotypes' of being a 'lesbian', but men conform to the 'stereotypes' of being men! So bloody what? If these are all socially constructed themes, then what's the matter? Why should I use them to single myself out? Yes, I’ve been gay bashed. I’ve seen and heard despicable things done and said to my friends, and wish and pray that it will stop, but I don’t think by proclaiming my sexuality is going to help that. I know it’s all very utopian, but as said, I’m just a woman who is in a relationship with another woman. Why should I let this make me different from others?

I know that some might think that I represent a step backwards in gay rights - but if anything, I think it's a step forward. I don't feel that I need to differentiate myself by my sexuality. I don't think anyone should have to. I don't see why I should be treated ANY differently from anyone else?

I would love some things to change (e.g. fertility treatment), and I will support those causes as I can, but I won't take part in anything which will only serve to widen the existing gap.

It might be a hippy thing to think, but I am ‘me’. I just don't see the equality in something that serves to differentiate between two groups of people. Maybe it's just me.

Sincerely yours,

An angry lesbian.